Tom,
Here are my feelings on this subject.
He wins, you lose because he will never give/offer you a spot where you have the advantage. He is better, more knowledgeable, probably smarter, and more experienced.
Most importantly, time/length of game is on his side. When he takes intentional fouls and forces you to do likewise, he is lengthening the game. One pocket is a game of mistakes for amateur players, and each time you come to the table you are more likely to make a mistake than he.
If we are talking about a two ball difference between his game and yours, you are much better off at 8-6 than 9-7, and get those two balls off the table into your rack so as to limit his options.
Control of the table is also very important to you, so you need to break if you can get it. You want him taking the risks, not you, for as long as you can maintain control. It's pretty common to vary the spot if you are alternating breaks.
Playing two fouls loss of game instead of three can keep him from lengthening the game on you.
2 to 1 on the money is probably a good option as it keeps pressure on him to win 3 out of 3 to get ahead, especially if you can get the breaks, or maybe even the first break.
Finally, I wouldn't expect to get any of these concessions from him, cause he knows he could actually lose to you.
Good luck
