clarevoyance
clarevoyance
first ... mr. Ill ... i wasn't aware of the cafe section, thanks! in reading it, i sense that maybe you were kindly directing me to a more suitable venue? one where my mouth-time (as opposed to serious one-pocket discussion) might be more fitting?
ms clare ... i can't recall a single post -- in any pool forum -- that struck home as smartly as did yours on the subject of communication!
Bob, you have not offended me, and I doubt you have offended any others. Although this forum is comparable to a pool room, it is not actually a room. It is a forum, where people's body language, unspoken communication, etc. is not observable. We have to use the written word to do our communicating.
clare, you are so right! when i talk, i'm using hands -- elbow squeezes, shoulder pats, exclamation points, finger wags, the finger, -- i am animated! eyebrow accents, moues, frowns, smiles, grins (different from smiles!) winks, nods ... the entire unspoken language of speaking!
then ... in a forum, it goes from 3-d to flatland, just like that! subtle allusions appear as gross insults. a would-be sly wink-and-a-nod is seen as a direct insult.
although, i guess i have to admit, if i am mouthy ... it comes through, loud and clear wherever i am!
sunny